One of the hardest things in life is taking responsibility for the reality that you create around yourself. Once we become responsible for becoming the goddesses of our own reality, than we are able to move past the stage of feeling helplessly lost to the winds of the fates.
With that responsibility, comes the knowledge that it is your responsibility to CREATE a reality that is more to your liking. If your are the architect of your universe, what are the plans? It is an extreme task, but one that must be undertaken if one desires self improvement. True improvement of the self stems from improving the world around you. If you realize that true unity does exist among all the tiny particles of matter in space/time, than it follows that improving ANYTHING will be improving yourself.